I really couldn't think of a better title, apologies.

Howdy folks, I worked up a ridiculous amount of courage to finally do this. Something about just looking at favorited pictures and gifs makes it easy to shunt this part of my life away into a corner that I never acknowledge. But I'm learning to be ok with myself and how my mind is wired.

And my hypno-fetish.

I grew up being taught that I should be ashamed of having any kind of sexual thoughts, let alone having a fetish. It always seemed like something so wrong, so taboo. Years ago when I made the connection I was mortified. I felt like there was this dark, nasty part of me that I could never let anyone hear about or I might just have to run away forever. For a long time I had thought my interest in hypnosis was purely fascination. It was fun to do it with friends, or as a party trick. Suddenly it was this dark thing I had done to them.

I don't know, this is all hard for me. All of this came up in me recently when a friend of mine had mentioned to me that she finally told her boyfriend about her bondage fetish. She said she felt so liberated by it. I feel really happy for her, and I want to learn from her.

All of this to say, this is hard for me, but I want to work on acknowledging this side of me. I don't want to think of this as some dark pit in my soul, but just another facet of who I am, however large or small it might be. I have a girlfriend of almost a year now, and I think I want to tell her about this.

So for those of you who are with me, you're not alone. For those of you who have gone through this, any advice?

I wasn't raised in an anti-sexual household (quite the opposite, my home was very open and positive), but I always felt odd about my fetish anyway. I wondered why, of all fetishes one can have, do I have this one?
It took me a long time to accept that I had any fetish at all, let alone one seemingly so odd... But over time, I came to terms with and eventually embraced my fetish. The more I browsed the web for information and porn (or porn adjacent material), the more I realized there were whole communities for this sort of thing, and I was not alone.
I felt really comfortable in it, and what finally helped me knock away the last bit of doubt I had about it, was finding out my girlfriend had the same fetish as me. We bonded a lot over it early on.

I never told my family about it, but the few friends I've told have been increasingly accepting of it, as some of them have equally outlandish fetishes. That also helped.

So I guess what the moral of the whole rant is, is that you're not alone, it's a surprisingly decent fetish to have, and while you should be selective of whom you tell, don't be ashamed of it. If someone doesn't immediately understand when you tell them, be patient and explain things calmly, rather than get defensive.

Beyond my GF, I recently shared my fetish with a friend during a mutual conversation about fetishes.

It was incredibly liberating.

I left the conversation thinking "their fetish is so not what I was expecting." It made me realize that my fetish isnt the weirdest one out there, and even if it was, *a lot* of people feel the exact way you do at first.

My advice: fully embrace your sexuall identity. That doesn't mean overshare or cross acceptable social/physical boundries, but find someone to talk to here on the hub, or a friend. I think there are even hypnofetish conventions or elements of them at BDSM conventions. I myself have never been, but if you are struggling with your sexuality, try those out.

I’ve embraced my sexual identity, but I’m not ever going to share it with family. My parents were both raised in very Christian households, and the anti sexual sediment lingers in it. (Not that id ever want to tell either of them anything about my personal life, lest they panic and try to drag me to live with them again, on account of my mental illness.)

^ To add, I do not come from a household that held anti-sexual sentiments.

With that said, as much as I have embraced my sexual identity, I also have zero desire to share my fetish with my family. It just isn't neccesary.

im likely to hide this for the rest of my life, and im ok with that.

I think it's basically a nerdy softcore rape fetish. Fine as a fantasy, fine as consensual roleplay. There's weirder stuff out there, so I have no problem sharing it with people I feel comfortable with. Only 2 so far but they were ok with it.

I know exactly what you mean by the hypno-closet and working up the courage to post. It shows an acknowledgement of something very private and at least somewhat taboo. Ultimately I'm very glad I did, even if it's not something I share with others outside the site.



Pretty much this. In my opinion, the fact it's a dark fantasy* is part of the draw, but that's also what makes it unlikely for me to pursue it in real life (even with people I'm close to.) Others may have better circumstances to do so but for me I'm quite happy just knowing I'm not the only one who gets their twist from this kind of thing.

Welcome to the 'hub btw =)


*(not as a rule but in general)

Welcome. I’ve had pretty much the same experience. It’s a really weird fetish but at least it’s not as weird as some others, as far as advice goes, don’t feel afraid with being open with your fetish. Who cares what others say? Just be proud of who you are, and if your not, remember that you’re lucky enough to jack off to anime girls

Yo imagine having a closeted fetish like this before the advent of the internet

Big fucking yikes. thank you content creators.

I get you. I've had it written in stone in my head I ain't telling anyone about my hypnosis fetish, but that's kinda changing over time.

And yeah, I grew up in a Christain household myself. They freaked the fuck out over anime and that Devil character from Cow and Chicken. But one day I'm going to tell them everything mostly to screw with them and laugh at their reactions.

I also take it you're into more than just the artwork?

The best advice I can give is to get involved. Even if it's small. What do I mean? Follow people who are also into hypnosis whether it be Twitter, Youtube, Reddit or other social media, or look at videos about hypnosis whether it is erotic or just for fun. Over time you'll get to a point where you'll stop caring, and it will be easy to have a conversation about it without feeling shame. Like I said about not telling anyone, now I tell whoever and whenever it comes up. Fair warning, when you go looking for that stuff you're no doubt going to run into some really disturbing parts of this kink that wont sit well with you, especially if you're into vanilla stuff.

Now, how are you going to break it to your girlfriend without making things weird?

Next time anything kinky, or anything hypnosis related, gets brought up tell her something like, "You know about hypnosis, right? Do you think it's real? What do you think of it?" Hopefully, she doesn't say, "Ew, no. That stuff is so weird and makes me uncomfortable." But if she responds with a question herself like, "I know about it but that stuff can't actually be real, right?" then at that point, you can say it is real and that you would know because you're really into it and go from there.

The key is confidence.

Also, maybe check this article out narratively.com/what-its-like-to-have-a-hypnosis-fetish/