So my boyfriend and I definitely want to find a master for the both of us but we aren't exactly sure where to start. I tried dreamychat but it's hard to enter conversation where everyone already knows each other and it doesn't help that the both of us are male subs. anyone have suggestions on ways or sites to find a master/switch?

Discord servers. I've been in and out of a few hypno ones and the one I found the best is darknosis. They have an intro section where you can introduce the both of you and make your request there.

But how do you find servers?

search function on discord? (bit of a crap shoot, likely)

ask people on here for good ones?

Could yaknow just try the hub's discord. There's a number of us tists on there who like new things and duo people are always fun to experiment with.